WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:00.800 align:middle line:90% 00:00:00.800 --> 00:00:03.330 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: You talked about what you've lost. 00:00:03.330 --> 00:00:04.600 align:middle line:90% Your daughters, you do-- 00:00:04.600 --> 00:00:05.400 align:middle line:90% - Yes. 00:00:05.400 --> 00:00:07.500 align:middle line:90% DR. PHIL: Your dog back, right? 00:00:07.500 --> 00:00:12.740 align:middle line:90% - I have lost my daughter. 00:00:12.740 --> 00:00:17.010 align:middle line:90% I have lost my dog. 00:00:17.010 --> 00:00:19.080 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: And when you say you lost your dog, 00:00:19.080 --> 00:00:20.970 align:middle line:84% your dog has just been quarantined. 00:00:20.970 --> 00:00:22.725 align:middle line:90% Your dog hasn't been put down. 00:00:22.725 --> 00:00:23.880 align:middle line:90% - Correct. 00:00:23.880 --> 00:00:26.310 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: You get the dog back, right? 00:00:26.310 --> 00:00:28.440 align:middle line:90% - Well, I hope so. 00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:31.170 align:middle line:90% 00:00:31.170 --> 00:00:33.030 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: Now, we have a statement 00:00:33.030 --> 00:00:34.500 align:middle line:90% from JoLynn's daughter. 00:00:34.500 --> 00:00:38.280 align:middle line:84% She says, and this is a quote, "M mom's drinking 00:00:38.280 --> 00:00:40.500 align:middle line:90% is completely out of control. 00:00:40.500 --> 00:00:44.190 align:middle line:84% And I don't think anything can help her at this point. 00:00:44.190 --> 00:00:47.550 align:middle line:84% She's already escaped death many times. 00:00:47.550 --> 00:00:49.920 align:middle line:84% My mom and my stepdad, Keith, have 00:00:49.920 --> 00:00:52.860 align:middle line:90% a very volatile relationship. 00:00:52.860 --> 00:00:56.580 align:middle line:84% My mom is verbally and physically abusive to Keith. 00:00:56.580 --> 00:00:58.810 align:middle line:84% She constantly calls the cops on Keith, 00:00:58.810 --> 00:01:01.830 align:middle line:90% saying he has abused her. 00:01:01.830 --> 00:01:03.780 align:middle line:90% Keith enables my mom's drinking. 00:01:03.780 --> 00:01:06.340 align:middle line:84% He makes sure she has food to eat, 00:01:06.340 --> 00:01:09.210 align:middle line:84% and will give her back her keys if she 00:01:09.210 --> 00:01:11.850 align:middle line:90% hasn't drunk for a few days. 00:01:11.850 --> 00:01:15.570 align:middle line:84% They are co-dependent and it's very unhealthy. 00:01:15.570 --> 00:01:17.760 align:middle line:84% Keith drinks at least two beers a night, 00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:19.570 align:middle line:90% and has recently gotten a DUI. 00:01:19.570 --> 00:01:22.140 align:middle line:84% I currently don't have much of a relationship 00:01:22.140 --> 00:01:25.260 align:middle line:84% with my mom because of her drinking. 00:01:25.260 --> 00:01:29.610 align:middle line:84% I wish she was the fun, loving, caring mom and grandmother 00:01:29.610 --> 00:01:30.750 align:middle line:90% that she used to be." 00:01:30.750 --> 00:01:34.260 align:middle line:90% 00:01:34.260 --> 00:01:36.990 align:middle line:84% What do you think about what she says? 00:01:36.990 --> 00:01:38.115 align:middle line:90% - It's true. 00:01:38.115 --> 00:01:41.700 align:middle line:90% 00:01:41.700 --> 00:01:43.240 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: Do you miss that relationship? 00:01:43.240 --> 00:01:44.715 align:middle line:90% - Yes, terribly. 00:01:44.715 --> 00:01:47.770 align:middle line:90% 00:01:47.770 --> 00:01:50.075 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: Do you miss being a grandmother, actively? 00:01:50.075 --> 00:01:50.875 align:middle line:90% - Terribly. 00:01:50.875 --> 00:01:57.430 align:middle line:90% 00:01:57.430 --> 00:02:00.850 align:middle line:90% Yes, I miss them all. 00:02:00.850 --> 00:02:10.289 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: JoLynn, look, you know, I kind of have-- 00:02:10.289 --> 00:02:16.300 align:middle line:84% I'm a little bit hamstrung here, because talking to you 00:02:16.300 --> 00:02:20.020 align:middle line:84% is kind of like talking to a ghost of yourself right now. 00:02:20.020 --> 00:02:23.260 align:middle line:84% Because you're 0.35 right now, which 00:02:23.260 --> 00:02:26.110 align:middle line:84% means your cognitive abilities, your ability 00:02:26.110 --> 00:02:31.240 align:middle line:84% to think, and reason, and hear me, and make decisions 00:02:31.240 --> 00:02:33.460 align:middle line:90% is not great. 00:02:33.460 --> 00:02:34.260 align:middle line:90% - No. 00:02:34.260 --> 00:02:40.880 align:middle line:84% And ever since I got thrown into the jail, 00:02:40.880 --> 00:02:42.440 align:middle line:90% I have not been the same. 00:02:42.440 --> 00:02:46.890 align:middle line:90% 00:02:46.890 --> 00:02:48.230 align:middle line:84% DR. PHIL: You got thrown into the jail 00:02:48.230 --> 00:02:51.340 align:middle line:90% because you're a drunk. 00:02:51.340 --> 00:02:53.010 align:middle line:84% And you're going to continue to get 00:02:53.010 --> 00:02:56.430 align:middle line:84% in situations you don't want to be in if you 00:02:56.430 --> 00:02:57.930 align:middle line:90% continue to be a drunk. 00:02:57.930 --> 00:03:01.260 align:middle line:84% You're going to kill yourself, or somebody in a car. 00:03:01.260 --> 00:03:03.930 align:middle line:84% Or you're going to drink until the respiratory part 00:03:03.930 --> 00:03:06.450 align:middle line:84% of your brain shuts down and you quit breathing, 00:03:06.450 --> 00:03:09.570 align:middle line:90% and he didn't find you in time. 00:03:09.570 --> 00:03:13.380 align:middle line:84% Or you're going to have to see through the fog, 00:03:13.380 --> 00:03:20.630 align:middle line:84% and grab on to a rope, and pull yourself out of this. 00:03:20.630 --> 00:03:26.000 align:middle line:90%